Self Harm Distractions * Trigger Warning*

Hello 

This isn't going to be a usual happy blog post but it's important . I've known too many people who self harm for too many different reasons that should never lead them to feeling like it is the only option . I am not a qualified professional and If you are effected by self harm I definitely urge you to go and find professional help to stop,  which I talk a little about at the end of my '100 reasons to live' post which you can find by clicking here . Today I'm not talking about stopping self harm because I believe the main key to that is talking about but today I want to talk about distractions to get you through the night because if you stop yourself every night then eventually that can lead to stopping completely . 

What is Self Harm ?

self-harm

sɛlfˈhɑːm/

noun

1. 1.

   deliberate injury to oneself, typically as a manifestation of a psychological or psychiatric disorder.

verb

1. 1.

   commit self-harm.

Self harm is very serious and can take place in many different forms that deliberately cause physical damage to yourself,  including : 

• Cutting or scratching 
• Causing bruises
• Banging their head against a wall
• Pulling out hair
• Burning 
• Falling over 
• Breaking an arm or leg

What self harm isn't : 

•  Just attention seeking . Maybe it is a cry out for help or maybe it's a secret release, there are so many different reason but if its a cry out for help then they need attention for something and if that is the only way they feel it can be asked for them,  they definitely need help with something . So give them that help . 
• Something that only happen's to people who are depressed or suffering from any other mental illness. Anyone of anyone age, gender, background or religion can be put in circumstances which may lead to them feeling the need to self harm . However I truly believe that every one of those people can (with a lot of hard work and help) overcome this and get better because I believe in you no matter how bad it's got and regardless of whether you still have any faith in yourself whatsoever. I still believe and will continue to believe in the wonderful person that is YOU . <3
• Something that self harmer's enjoy or they wouldn't do it. No NO NO No NO NO! Just NO . I'm not even going to comment on this ridiculous myth . If you seriously think that someone enjoys hurting themselves ... I think you need to think that through again because you got confused somewhere . 

Distractions

Okay so I promised distractions so distraction's you will get. Just to remind you this is NOT an alternative to professional help but just to get you through the hour or however long it takes <3 I love you . I've asked people in the Help and Support Boards of the hopeful forum for their in put and some of my friends whom have been affected. Additionally I've done a lot of  Research on as many reliable sites as I could and I will leave links to sites that can help or have useful pages at the end of this post  Also if you have any good distractions or beneficial idea's please feel free to help others as long as you are kind feel free to comment whatever you wish. 

• Call Someone. I can't say this enough times because it's so under rated but it's so so beneficial and important . " You Are Not in this Alone"  I have this written on my bedroom wall next to my bed for whenever I'm sad because as humans we tend to convince ourselves that we are alone when we're upset but you are not more alone than you were ten minutes before are you, really ? Call someone, anyone . You have people who love you and care about you . You don't even have to talk to them just call them and cry down the phone for a bit . Whether it's your family, your best friend or childline ( 0800 1111) you can call them . You are never alone . 
• Punch a pillow . This is a good way of releasing tension if you are angry or worked up . Just make sure what you're hitting is soft so that you wont damage yourself . Hitting a rolled up newspaper on a door frame does a similar thing . 
• Scream ! Seriously darlin, just get it all out of your system and if people are in the house try screaming into a pillow . 

List the good the good things about yourself. Don't even tell me there isn't any because there are . It's not a bad thing to think about the good things in yourself . Nowadays girls seem to think it's not okay to actually say " Do you know what ? I'm me . I'm okay with that . I am beautiful " ergh society makes me so angry . I might do a blog post about that at some point. But seriously just look at the small things like well your eyes are a really nice shade for starters <3 

• Have some "me" time. Go run yourself a bath and cuddle up in bed having a Inbetweener's marathon ( or anything you like , but something that might make you smile would be good ) . 
• Paint your nails. This keeps your hands busy and that can be extremely useful . 
• Knitting .. you should make a scarf for the winter I know you're still going to be here for <3 
• Cross stitch , how about you make a cute little cross stitch for the friend who's always there ? Or even just for you because I guarantee you are worth it :)  
•  Baking, being organised and weighing out the measurements and doing something productive is a good way to start to feel a little more in control .
• Painting
• Drawing
• Playing an instrument, if you can sing or if you can't , go and sing your little heart out until the hurt has gone away . 
• Writing, you could take all that emotion and turn it into a best selling novel ! Wow it's going to be amazing I can just see it now ;) <3 
• Clean you're room or organise something . It can help if you feel out of control this can distract you, give you a sense of achievement when you're done as well as  please your carer ;) 
• Play games ... go kill someone on GTA or Rock out on guitar hero, whatever  takes your fancy aha .
• Squeezing an Ice cube 
• Sucking on a Lemon ... For the shock factor . I don't know how well this would work but anything's worth a shot and I guess it makes sense aha ;) 
• Give every person in all your magazines a moustache 
• EXERCISE! Exercising is key to calming down and de-stressing and whilst it's de-stressing you you're releasing feel-good endorphins that but you on a natural high making you feel happy :) Now doesn't that sound like a nicer alternative ? <3 
• Run you're hands under freezing cold water 
• Counting ceiling lights or tiles to distract you and write them down as you count to keep your hands busy ... and if your hands still need to be busy after that make a graph to show lights in all the different rooms of the house :) Sounds boring but if your hands are busy then it's fantastic :) Just like you <3
• Write out the lyrics to your favourite song <3 There's a line I like in Pierce The Veil's " Hold On Till May " that says : " If I were you I'd put that away, See you're just wasted thinking bout the past again. Darlin' you'll be okay . " They're right you're going to be okay. Maybe not right now but if you give up now then you're never going to know <3 It's difficult and I understand that but you need to hold out a lil bit longer honey . 
• Learn to swear in another language because that's clearly a talent you need to have far more than that mark which you don't <3 Trust me . 
• Memorise a poem with meaning .
• Feel your pulse to remind yourself that you're alive and that's pretty damn awesome (( <3 ))
• Make a notebook of your favourite quotes that help you ... PINTEREST TIME ! :D 
• Make yourself a safe place whether its some beanbags with blankets in your room or you've added nine pillows and every cuddly toy you own to your bed just make it cosy and lovely and put a book or your laptop next to it whichever you like . Now go take a freezing cold shower ... I know I'm sorry if it's a bit chilly but try . Once your out the shower pop your nicest fresh PyJama's on and climb in to your cosy place and notice how warm and safe it feels in comparison then watch YouTube, Read all of the Harry Potter books or Catch up on every episode of The Great British Bake Of ( WOO ) whatever makes you feel all snugly inside and do it all night . Just have sometime for you to be calm ... and add a Milky way , that's what I give myself when I having some calm time ;) <3
• Bake ! I'm sure it will be yummy :) Maybe you'll be in the next series of bake off.. wow that would be so cool, yeah you should definitely bake :) 
• Listen to music ! This is the most common method , please comment songs that help you <3 
• Get a Wreck This Journal ... and wreck it ;) 
• Brose Amazon and Ebay .. Kit out your whole future house with your imaginary unlimited budget :) 
• Write a letter to brighten someone else's day ... maybe even a stranger and you could just leave it in a cafe ? <3 

These are just a few alternatives ! There are loads and you can do all of them . I Know you can . I want you to know that even if it feels unbearable .. it isn't  . You can hold out and get through this and there doesn't need to be a mark on yourself to show you felt like that . If you need help ( which you do if you feel the need to hurt yourself ) please, please ask for it . It's out there and available to you and yes it might be scary to ask but you need to honey and it's always better than suffering alone . You just need to stay strong because you are a fighter and don't you dare under estimate yourself because if you think that you can't do it , 1) You're going to trick yourself into believing that . and 2 ) If someone else told you that you we're too weak to do something would you listen to them or prove them wrong ? Self belief is important and you should believe in yourself .. because I believe in you and I don't just believe in anyone , You're special .  If you do mess up , try again . When you were a kid you didn't just magically stand up and be able to walk perfectly did you ? But when you fell down you got up and look at you now . A beautiful , wonderful strong example of a human being ... wow :o <3 You're amazing . 

Here are a few useful websites I found for you <3 :) 

Kooth.com - On-line councillors , you don't even need to leave your room to get help just click the link, you can do that <3
Childline - This link will take you to a list of Self Harm distractions on the childline website
Selfharm.co.uk - Lots of information and facts 
Harmless - Coping strategies
Self Injury Support -  Some self help stuff :) 
Mind - All kinds of support 

If you know any helpful sites please leave the links in the comments <3 

Stay Strong <3 Stay Smiley :) 

Keep Going like the absolutely wonderful person you are <3 

Much Love , Love Much-ly 
DontBurstMyBubbleXx

The Liebster Award :)

Hey there beautiful :) 

How are you doing today ? I've been tagged to do the  Liebster Award by the rather lovely " Lou's World " I'm particularly loving her bookshelf tours at the minute so definitely have a look :)

So here are the rules : 

1. Post the award on your blog
2. Thank the blogger who presented you with the award and link back to their blog
3. Write 11 random facts about yourself.
4. Nominate 11 bloggers who you feel deserve this award and who have less than 500 followers.
5. Answer 11 questions posted by the presenter and ask your nominees 11 questions. 

So without any further a do I guess I better get started ... although I'm not entirely sure what I'm doing exactely aha ;) <3 

11 Facts about myself : 

1.  I like tigers and me and me boyfriend invented a creature called a Ziger which is a tiger but is black and white and has hooves and wings ! I know ... I need to get a life ;) 
2. I don't have a favourite colour because I don't like discriminating against the other colours ... but orange highlighters distress me :) 
3. I really REALLY love frozen ! I know it's been like 9 months but I just can't "Let it go" ;) 
4. Swimming is one of my favourite things to do <3 It's like I can think about everything but none of it will get to me :) 
5. I want to be a mermaid ... WHY AM I NOT A MERMAID ! 
6. Me and my best friend have a saying " If you're not the queen then you don't get a glass" although I think we're just really lazy and need an excuse to drink out of the bottle hehe :) 
7. I love being in new places, especially busy cities and just not knowing anybody and the sense of freedom :) 
8. One day I want to live in Francefor a bit 
9. My Idol is Carrie Hope Fletcher 
10. Singing and Drama is my life .. I also play guitar, ukulele and drums pretty badly aha :) 
11. I believe you're beautiful <3 

Bria Lou's questions : 

1) What is your favourite book?

Wow . That's a hard question to start with isn't it ! Nooo this is too difficult ... umm possibly Eleanor and Park or Breaking Butterflies or The Raspberry Rules or One million Lovely Letters or ... okay I give up .. these are cruel questions aha :) 

2) How old will you be at your next birthday?

Sweet Sixteen !

3) What is your favourite hobby?

Singing :) I write songs and accompany them badly on my ukulele or guitar <3 

4) Who is your favourite male YouTuber?

TomisNotAwesome He's wonderfully funny and positive and brightens my world :) 

5) How many siblings, if any, do you have?

Just the one beautiful sister <3

6) Who was your first celebrity crush?

I don't think I've celebrity crush ... I mean I'm In love Prince Eric from The Little Mermaid if that counts ? ... I'm saying that counts ;) 

7) What was your favourite childhood TV show?

The Winx Club ! Best show ever until they changed how they did the animation ... not happy about that ! 

8) What is your favourite movie?

My opinions change momently ... right now I'd say it's Disney's Up because it's my all time favourite love story :) 

9) What is your favourite school subject?

Maybe Art or Textiles :) I don't have either of those any more though which is kind of sad... I also loved french GCSE :) 

10) Do you believe in mermaids, unicorns, ghosts or fairies?

I have no reason not to ... I wish I could fly like a fairy or live underwater like a mermaid though :) 

11) If you had an hour until death, what would you do?

Cover a town in hopeful notes and write a letter to everyone I had things to say to ... I'd also sing because I'd like to die happy <3 

My Questions :) 

1. Where is the one place you want to go ? 
2. How do you define love ? 
3. What's your favourite thing about blogging ?
4. What's your favourite shop ? 
5. Who's your fictional crush and why ? 
6. If you could be a Disney princess or prince who would it be ? 
7. What are three things you like about yourself ? 
8. If you could have one magic power would it be ? 
9. Where are you happiest ? 
10. What do you want to do with your life ? 
11. What's your favourite quote ? 

My Nominations :

 The Art Of Being Invisable 

 Catriona Aitken

Books n Biscuits 

MyLittleKristii 

Hopeful Wanderer

Life Through Our Eyes 

Catching Dreams

The Geek With Glasses 

Never Grow Up

BeNiceIt'sTuesday 

The Northern Wonder

Everyone nominated is an absolutely wonderful blogger and I really look forward to seeing there posts , In the mean time please go check out some of their currant posts :) They're awesome <3 

Stay Strong <3 Stay Smiley :) 

I really hope you enjoyed that and finding a little more out about me because I don't ussually do this sort of thing so let me know what you think :)

Much Love, Love Much-ly 

DontBurstMyBubbleXx

P.s. "The only real chances you regret in life are the ones you don't take"


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When Offering Your Pinkie ...

Hello , 

I don't really know what this is, I wrote most of this on a car journey I'm not entirely sure why but these are the thoughts in my head that I have named " When Offering Your Pinkie" . I have recently realised that there is next to no support for people who support their friends through mental illnesses. This is wrong . There needs to be support in place for the friends of people with mental illnesses because "One in ten children between the ages of one and 15 has a mental health disorder." (The Office for National Statistics Mental health in children and young people in Great Britain, 2005) It's fairly likely that a lot of these people have friends who try to help and do an excellent job but it angers me that those friends are not also given support . What do you think ? Anyways I don't really know what spurred me to write this . But I hope you are well and here are the words my mind gave me when trying to piece together the support that I believe is needed for both sufferers of mental health issues and their friends . 


Don't just walk away . 
Offer them your pinkie and say ;
" I wont let go if you won't " <3 
If they go to sleep purely to escape the bitter sadness; 
Send a text saying ; 
" I love you " 
So at least their day can start with a smile :) 
Never let them forget ; 
" You are NOT in this alone " 
They arn't and neither are you <3 
Don't forget to mention that , 
" It's going to be okay very soon " 
The tomorrow they need might be tomorrow ... 
If they give up they'll never know . 
Are they feeling weak ? 
Like there body can't support the weight of there mind ? 
leave a note in their bag saying ; 
" Stay Strong Beautiful " 
The strength is still there. 
People lose sight of their strength in the darkness. 
Just because you can't see something, it doesn't mean its not there . 
Light a match over their strength for them <3 
If they can't get out of bed then pull them out , 
Do their hair and tell them to put on their best clothes . Say ; 
" Everyday is special .. just like you " 
When they cry ? Let them . 
Let them cry and don't move until they're done . 
Then fetch them chocolate and say : 
" You're worth the world but I only had a piece of chocolate ... 
but it's good, like you " 
Ask questions ! But listen to answers . 
Don't tell them their problems arn't bad enough . 
Listen before they are <3 Let them know ; 
" Everything about you is always worth my time " 
If they ask for help ? Get it ! 
Don't question it . Say ; 
" Okay , we'll find a way "  

But if their pinkie starts to slip from yours , 
Grab them with both hands and yell for help . 
Tell them ;
" You're not going anywhere." 
Never make them feel bad for needing your pinkie . 

However don't fall with them . 
The weight of their mind might just pull you over as you reach out to save them . 
If they drop then don't follow . 
It's not your fault, never is your fault and never will be . 
Watching over a friend , Keeping them safe , 
You're trying your hardest . I see that darling <3 
And let me just tell you now that you are doing so, so wonderfully ! 
You are so enough , I promise . 
I promise to both of you that you are enough . 
But YOU ; the friend that offers their pinkie . 
You are just like them; 
You're both the strong ones ! 
You're amazing <3 
And you know what ? 

" Take my pinkie ! I won't let go if you won't, because I love you and you're not in this alone . I know it's hard and you feel like you're losing your strength in the darkness because you held out your match for them but I'm telling you I can still see it <3 I have never thought of a kinder soul but you . Stay strong beautiful,  remember you're worth it too! Every day is special, just like you . You're worth the world but I can only give you my word but I promise it's good, rather like you . You're being so generous , handing out you're heart , what a wonderful thing but don't forget your where you starts  ! Don't lose sight of yourself because I guarantee that everything about you is worth my time <3 Okay ? We'll find a way . You're not going anywhere <3 " 

Stay Strong <3 Stay Smiley :) 

" If you're going through hell, keep going." 
- Winston Churchill 

Much love, love much-ly 
DontBurstMyBubbleXx 

Twitter : @MyHappyBubbleXx
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I'm Going To Ireland !!! :D

Helloooo :) 

Today is a wonderful day isn't it :) I mean the fact I will be getting up at four am tommorrow is slightly distressing I'm not going to lie aha but if you haven't noticed by the title of this post ... I'M GOING TO IRELAND :D I've always wanted to go and oh my gosh I can't wait :) I love the accent so much .. I'm actually considering kidnapping an Irish boy and taking him home with me to just read to me .. I don't think my boyfriend would mind that much, would he ? ;) 

So I've spent the last few days packing and carefully planning what I'm going to take ... and oh who am I kidding ? aha :) Okay I packed in about ten minutes using the very precise method of throwing everything that I don't hate into my suitcase as quickly as possible and then at the last minute realising that I hadn't packed underwear when I'd left no room and I know there's rain forecast but I couldn't not take my favourite dress could I ? So obviously the right decision was to take out the only jumper I had packed to make room :) Don't worry though .. I packed my Thumper onesie to keep me warm and cosy aha :) 

Unfortunately me going to Ireland does mean that I won't have any internet connection for a week so I won't be able to write or post blogs :( I'm really sorry about that because I really enjoy writing them as much as I hope you enjoy reading them . However I am hoping to use my holiday to plan lots of the blogs I've been thinking about for when I come back :) 

I hope you all have an absolutely wonderful week and I love you very very much <3 Oooo I just want hug you all aha :) Please try to Stay Strong <3 Stay Smiley :) 

By the way can I just say, " I couldn't help but notice darling, You're are looking ever so beautiful today " 

Feel free to let me know what you're going to be up to this holiday :) I'd love to hear about anywhere nice that you're going <3

Much Love, Love Much-ly 
DontBurstMyBubble xxx

P.s. Today's quote is kind of just lovely :) So I thought you'd like to see it ... it's a nice thought <3  : 
“Why do you go away? So that you can come back. So that you can see the place you came from with new eyes and extra colors. And the people there see you differently, too. Coming back to where you started is not the same as never leaving.” 
― Terry Pratchett, A Hat Full of Sky

#100happydays: day 46 ( Really, Really Small Things )

Well hello there gorgeous :)

Can I just say that you are looking particularly wonderful today ... wow. Seriously you look stunning <3 I'm sorry this is a day late, like I mentioned, my laptop is broken making it very difficult to write daily because well I need a laptop to write aha :) I also felt a bit rubbish after a series of bad events within the twenty-four hours that made me one to curl up into a little ball and stay in bed all day .. we've all been there left missing someone so much it hurts but I knew there still had to be good things even if they were so small that they were miniscule they had to be there :) So I made a quick list because a) I like lists and b) to force yourself to find things that are good is the best way to find them so here we go :

1) I saw this picture on Facebook and it made me smile ... smiling's good so this has to be a good thing :)

2) I worked with the lovely woman I talked about in my last blog ( You can find it here :)  all day :)

3) My sister said I could use her laptop whilst she was in Germany so I have a laptop for two days <3

4) One of the people I was working with gave me a freddo ( I don't actually like Cadbury's ) but it made me smile anyway and I ate it regardless because well ... it's chocolate aha :) So that's todays #100happydays photo ... yeah I ate it before I could remember to take a photo aha, sorry bout that ;)  

 

 

5) I started writing a new song and I feel like it's going well :)

 

 

Actually I feel a lot better now I've started thinking of good things by just looking closer at the day I can see even more good things like the way I felt better after a long phone call with my boyfriend :) However it is okay not to be okay for a while because unless we take a little bit of time to let ourselves take things in and let ourselves be a bit down, it will all build up and be twenty times worse and way harder to pick yourself up <3 So If you're feeling a little or a lottle bit rubbish take some time out for you , allow yourself to spend a day eating chocolate and feeling sorry for yourself but make sure at the end of the day you can still list five good things because otherwise you might (not lose your spark) but forget how to relight it again and we wouldn't want that would we ;) But no matter how rubbish you feel remember that it s going to be okay <3 I don't know how long it's going to take but it will be okay you just need to Stay Strong <3 Stay Smiley :) I pinkie promise you that .

 



Anyways I'm going to go now because I want to right today's blog because I'm not going to lie, today went ALOT better and I'm feeling way happier and I really don't want sad stuff on here :) This is our happy bubble for me and you <3
I hope your day is going well or getting better :)
Much love, Love much-ly
DontBurstMyBubble xxx

P.s. Today's quote is completely irrelevant to anything at all but I saw it today and just had to share it with you :)

“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”    
- Albert Einstein

#100happydays: day 26 ( I'm in Love : One Million Lovely Letters )

Good evening :)

Tomorrow I'm leaving to go send the weekend at a festival that is organised by a youth group I'm in so this for once is actually going to be a short post when I say it is ;) I don't know what it is but the minute I write short post , it triggers a thousand different idea's in my head that are just desperate to be translated into words and weaved into some sort of morals within a blog that ends up being a 3000 word essay by the time I'm done ... I just love writing :) I mean I definitely don't have time to write hence why I write in my sleeping time but there is no denying that I love it unconditionally :)

Another woman who loves writing is one whom I have written about before in this blog; Jodi Ann Bickley :) If you want to read me explaining more about her and her project One Million lovely Letters , the you can  find that blog post here :) However today I would like to talk about her book of which I am about one third of the way through and it is quite honestly breathtaking . I'm not going to lie , usually I dislike reading auto biography's. I often get bored and they simply don't keep my attention but One Million Lovely Letters has captivated me in a way I  believe no book has ever done before. I was enthralled by the un-dying kindness of her mother and her words and use of language was enchanting . This is a truly inspirational book ... and I haven't even finished :) Frequently I disagree with the kindly short reviews of fellow writers and newspapers on the front cover of the book and feel they are over exaggerated to sell the book which is of course there overall purpose . However in One Million Lovely Letters I now realise that I couldn't agree more with Ed Sheeran when he states "It's a fantastic book, from a fantastic wordsmith. " I deeply recommend you read this book at the first chance you get and I sincerely hope you get as much out of it as I am :) Today's #100happydays picture is a picture of the book from my lunch hour which I spent reading it with a 7up which my friend bought me randomly which was really nice of him :) and my post it notes and a pen :) I actually started putting post it notes on the pages wherever Ms. Bickley really took my breath to the point where I was left wonder struck and had to stop for several minutes to process the utter compassion and awe I felt for what I had just read ... and just me this happened a lot you can barely read the book for post it notes aha ;) 

“We think too much and feel too little. More than machinery, we need humanity. More than cleverness, we need kindness and gentleness.”

—Charlie Chaplin

Finally because of the festival that I spoke about at the beginning of this blog , I will not be able to post until sunday due to being in a field with no internet access and a lot of spiders :/ However I will write my blogs on paper and and I will probably do one big blog on Sunday with all three of those days #100happydays pictures in and a big long blog :) 

Stay Strong <3 Stay Smiley :)

I hope you have a lovely weekend , remember that you're beautful and amazing because it's true and I would be very upset if you forgot <3 Try out something new this weekend even if it's just a new meal or booking a class for something you've always wanted to learn and let me know about it in the comments :) 

Much Love, Love Muchly 

DontBurstMyBubble xxx

#100happydays: day 20 ( You're beautiful )

hellooo :) 

I hope all is well with you  :) Tonight I wanted to talk about beauty and self confidence . Firstly I would just like to say ; I am not what would be considered a  particularly attractive girl and my self confidence has a tendency to run lower than low on a regular basis. So I'm not saying that I am completely 100% filled with reassurance that I am " beautiful" and I have never felt particularly okay with myself until recently so I know what it's like to not like what you see in the mirror, feel  like everyone's judging your appearance and to feel like you dislike every part of yourself and I'd like to wish on a dandelion ( dandelion wishes are amazing never underestimate their power )  that you don't but in reality I expect a lot of you reading this are teenagers and are under the ever growing pressure of society to look like you have been taught to believe people will love . However I have learnt some lessons that are extremely important and I think other girl should learn them because it is so so sooo Important to be happy, confident and comfortable within yourself because you are amazing,  you just need to learn that <3

 I am aware you might be shaking your head at the screen thinking ' no,  I've heard it before I'm still not beautiful everyone always says that they have to because society says they should to make me feel better about how I look ' I am not society . I refuse to be part of this group of "people" moulding the universe into a seemingly flawless, perfect shape that suits them . No. Just no . I know I like to be positive and not too serious but this is important to me and I feel like people need to understand what I'm going to say , I promise I'm aiming for a positive outcome but I'm going the long way round as to not miss anyone out because everyone's important to someone and as it happens you're all very important to me <3 So I really want you to feel happy :)

Okay right, I think I'm done with the angry mini rant about a society that I'm ashamed to live in . Despite this one society I'm proud to be a part of is the Hopefuls community , If you ever need support or just a friendly chat then please visit The Hopeful Forum because everyone is so supportive . Anyway's I'm off topic already aha and I've not even got on to anything that I wanted to say :) So I wanted to offer you my views on beauty in fact no , I want to offer you my views on the ways I think might just maybe make you see that you don't need to feel in anyway bad about yourself , So here we go : 

You are beautiful. If you are trying your best to be the best version of yourself and as nice as you can be without compromising your essential happiness I can tell you that makes you a beautiful person on the inside . But that's not enough is it ? You are constantly told that without outer " beauty" you will not attract a suitable partner to admire your inner beauty and we couldn't risk that could we ? because what more would a young adult need but someone to first recognise their beauty whom would then commit to complimenting it everyday ? Nothing apparently . This is ridiculous . Outer beauty is not important . However your self confidence is important because it allows you to be yourself , be comfortable as yourself and over all be happier as yourself . 

So I offer you this ; The Oxford Dictionary definition of beauty : 

Definition of beauty in English:

beauty

Line breaks: beauty

Pronunciation: /ˈbjuːti 

  

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NOUN (plural beauties)

• 1[MASS NOUN] A combination of qualities, such as shape, colour, or form, that pleases the aesthetic senses, especially the sight:

I would firstly like to point out that every individual see's the world differently. We all see beauty in different things for example ; I saw little beauty in the spider I found scurrying hurriedly across my bedroom ceiling as I woke up this morning however I know many people are entranced by the intricate details that create something as amazing as a living creature :) Beauty is a perception. If I tell you that you are beautiful its my perception so it can't wrong . Therefore you can make your own decision and your own interpretation as to what your perception of beauty is . Try standing in front of a mirror and looking directly at yourself. Point out all the things you like about yourself ( even if its as small as the colour of your eyes or that your hair is quite a nice colour just something, anything . Now look at everything else and bit by bit look at yourself and think that isn't that bad , this is actually pretty damn beautiful in its own way and then look at yourself and smile and say out loud " actually I am beautiful, it's okay to acknowledge this because it's true and there is no reason I shouldn't believe it's true and anyone how says anything other than that about my body, simply has a different perception of beauty " and smile , go on smile . I mean it whether you force it or you mean it from your new realisation just smile and everyone else will recognise that you are okay with yourself ( as you should be ) and that it's okay for them to feel okay about themselves too <3

My #100happydays today is hopefully you feeling better about yourself. You feeling beautiful , not by society's standards, not by my standards but by yours <3 because if you feel beautiful from by your standards that confidence will shine through and everyone will see it in your smile :) after all smiling's good ;) My #100happydays picture today has kind of been pictures of quotes that I have spread throughout this blog post however this is my main one : 

Finally , just in case you haven't had enough quotes yet then today's quotes is a Marilyn 

Monroe one because this woman talks a lot of sense sometimes :)

“Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius and it's better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.”

― Marilyn Monroe

I hope this wasn't too pushy , I know it's different from my normal style however I really wanted to get this message across <3 I'm sorry if it was badly worded I tried my best and I spent 3 hours and a half trying to put these thoughts and feelings into words that might vaguely resemble them but I hope in some way they helped you out , I really do :)  

Stay Strong <3 Stay Smiley :) 

I hope you have a great day ahead of you ,

Much Love , Love much-ly 

DontBurstMyBubble xxx